Dealing with 2 year old behavior problems
Your child’s temperament may have been clear to you back in infancy, and now that he’s a preschooler, those early impressions are becoming clearer. Temperament is a person’s inborn nature or disposition, and you’re probably beginning to see how yours complements or clashes with your child’s. Viewing your relationship with your child through the lens of temperament can give you insights into how to act with him to best avoid power struggles. 2 year old behavior problems can be annoying, but when properly understood, can shape the child’s future.
Hey, who’s the boss around here? Along with better language skills can come an annoying new personality trait: bossiness. “Put my coat on.” “Come here, Mommy!” “Sit there, Daddy.” Your child sees herself as the center of the universe, so she finds it only natural to believe that everyone revolves around her. Although you can’t argue with that perception developmentally, you can coach her to be a little nicer about it. Encourage the use of “please” and a “nice voice” when she wants something.
Sometimes bossiness is a bid for your attention. She may make imperious demands because she really wants you to listen to her or play with her right this minute. Again, teach her to ask nicely. Let her know that you can’t always comply with her wishes just then and help her to learn patience by responding to her as soon as you can.
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How to deal with toddlers who don’t listen
In understanding children’s behavior or temperament, there are basic things you need to do so that you can make the best use of the situation. These include;
- Practice self control. the more you understand that your child can’t figure out how to express his feelings, all you need to do is to calm down and make him know that there is a better way to respond in a more calm and constructive manner. Your disposition will teach them how to cope with strong feelings. As they grow older,, they master these skills and become better people. Talk about feelings and how to cope with them, show them ideas on how to cope with these strong emotions
- Let your child make choices that are appropriate to his age. Things like choosing the shoes and clothes to wear and when he chooses the wrong ones, make him understand in a calm way why he can’t wear those. always empathize with her while giving her reasons.
YOUR LIFE NOW
You might be starting to see more and more of your personality in your child. (Or Grandpa’s personality, or funny Uncle Bob’s.) Sometimes children inherit their parents’ temperaments and sometimes parent-child temperaments clash like polka dots and stripes. If you were shy and your child lives in the limelight, it can feel harder to relate to her. Your personality can also influence how you treat your child. For example, if you were a star athlete you might feel driven to provide your child with lots of sports opportunities, even if she’d rather be playing with dolls. The main thing is to respect and nurture the child you have for who she is and not veer too far into projecting anybody else onto her.