HOW TO STOP TODDLER CONSTANTLY CRYING AND WHINING
“I waaaaaaaaaaaaant it! Maaaaaaaaaaa Maaaaaaaaaaa!” A child’s whine is like fingernails on a chalkboard. Inconsolable crying toddler can be a pain in the neck and an headache. Whining starts as a way to get your attention — usually when your child can’t speak clearly, either because he doesn’t know many words yet or he’s tired and cranky. To keep whining from becoming a bad habit, don’t respond to it. Ask your child to use his “nice voice,” and ignore him until he does.
Have you noticed a new sound in the house — an annoying, grating sound coming from your child’s mouth? Whining is to a semi-verbal 2-year-old what crying is to a nonverbal baby — it’s a way of expressing frustration and impatience. Often preschoolers don’t even realize they’re whining. That’s just how their emotions come out. Whining can quickly escalate into an irritating habit, so it’s best if you can nip it in the bud early.
The essential strategy is to stick to your guns. If your child whines for something and you give in “just this once,” she’s likely to whine all the louder and longer next time because she knows it’s a possibility that you just might give in again. Another tactic is to point out how unpleasant her tone sounds by mimicking it back to her — a good way to turn a whine into a giggle. Or you can plead helplessness: “I can’t understand you when you use that voice.” Empathize with the feeling behind the whine and then redirect her: “I know you don’t want to have a nap now. You’re full of energy. But your voice hurts my ears. Let’s do 10 jumping jacks and then read a book.”
HOW TO STOP TODDLER CRYING AND WHINING
- Stick to your guns. If your child whines for something and you give in “just this once,” she’s likely to whine all the louder and longer next time
- Point out how unpleasant her tone sounds by mimicking back to her
- Empathize with the feeling behind the whine and then redirect her